Achieving your Goals by Emotional Solution
New Year 𝐒𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 for our goals are the new black! 𝐑𝐄𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐨 𝟐𝟎𝟐𝟏!
To me, starting 2022 was a matter of not REpeating the same disc of the 12 months just gone. My external realities have changed too, alongside with my internal ones 🆕
If I changed, and my goals changed, 𝙬𝙝𝙮 𝙬𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙄 𝙜𝙤 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙖𝙢𝙚 𝙨𝙤𝙡𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨?!
The new year is not necessarily just festive: it can bring negative feelings too, e.g. anxiety.
Many of us experience this every 1st of January: I can’t help but wonder if we have successfully conditioned our mind to believe the first few days of January equal the excruciating pains of summing up our wins and losses…? From a mindset perspective, it could well be.
All in all, it is a cycle 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦𝘥𝘭𝘺 coming to an end. The mere thought of it can add to the sense of drawing balance sheets. Or writing down some goals. Or toasting to resolutions while still in vacation mode.
In the spirit of challenging my mindset, I set End of Year apart and considered time as a continuum. The break between one year and the next is an arbitrary one (humankind has been creating and using methods for keeping track of days and larger divisions of time for centuries); so do not fall into the trap of seeing each January as the dawn of your new history: you make resolutions, and you regret your irresolution, and so goes the vicious cycle. Antonio Gramsci, late Italian politician, had put this sentiment in a much more direct way more than a century ago:
“I want every morning to be a new year’s for me. Every day I want to reckon with myself, and every day I want to renew myself. No day set aside for rest. I choose my pauses myself, when I feel drunk with the intensity of life and I want to plunge into animality to draw from it new vigour.” [A. Gramsci]
With most of us being our own harshest critics, the balances are pretty often in red 🔻.
If operating in such a negative emotional disc, can you guess how long we are going to stick to our Goals (aka resolutions)?!
Correct! Not very long!
So what do we need for Achieving Goals? An Emotional Solution!
Let me introduce you to a different approach: an Emotional Solution
It works like there
🟡 select 𝗛𝗢𝗪 you 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 (𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁) 𝘁𝗼 𝗙𝗘𝗘𝗟 – could use a card game like The Emotional Culture Deck – Elephant Rider | Certificate of Practice
⚪️ 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀, so to spot co-dependencies
🟡 draw 𝗮 𝘀𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝗮𝗿𝗱 of the positives, so you can score yourself every day/week/or month
With emotions driven by our thinking, this approach covers the closest route between the two: by reminding myself how I want to feel, I’ll be just one step away from adjusting my thoughts.