New Year, New Yearn!
Achieving your Goals by Emotional Solution
New Year ๐๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ for our goals are the new black! ๐๐๐ฌ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐๐๐๐!
To me, starting 2022 was a matter of not REpeating the same disc of the 12 months just gone. My external realities have changed too, alongside with my internal ones ๐
If I changed, and my goals changed, ๐ฌ๐๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐ค๐ช๐ก๐ ๐ ๐๐ค ๐๐ค๐ง ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐จ๐๐ข๐ ๐จ๐ค๐ก๐ช๐ฉ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ?!
The new year is not necessarily just festive: it can bring negative feelings too, e.g. anxiety.
Many of us experience this every 1st of January: I can’t help but wonder if we have successfully conditioned our mind to believe the first few days of January equal the excruciating pains of summing up our wins and losses…? From a mindset perspective, it could well be.
All in all, it is a cycle ๐ด๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฅ๐ญ๐บ coming to an end. The mere thought of it can add to the sense of drawing balance sheets. Or writing down some goals. Or toasting to resolutions while still in vacation mode.
In the spirit of challenging my mindset, I set End of Year apart and considered time as a continuum. The break between one year and the next is an arbitrary one (humankind has been creating and using methods for keeping track of days and larger divisions of time for centuries); so do not fall into the trap of seeing each January as the dawn of your new history: you make resolutions, and you regret your irresolution, and so goes the vicious cycle. Antonio Gramsci, late Italian politician, had put this sentiment in a much more direct way more than a century ago:
“I want every morning to be a new yearโs for me. Every day I want to reckon with myself, and every day I want to renew myself. No day set aside for rest. I choose my pauses myself, when I feel drunk with the intensity of life and I want to plunge into animality to draw from it new vigour.” [A. Gramsci]
With most of us being our own harshest critics, the balances are pretty often in red ๐ป.
If operating in such a negative emotional disc, can you guess how long we are going to stick to our Goals (aka resolutions)?!
Correct! Not very long!
So what do we need for Achieving Goals? An Emotional Solution!
Let me introduce you to a different approach: an Emotional Solution
It works like there
๐ก select ๐๐ข๐ช you ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ (๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ปโ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐) ๐๐ผ ๐๐๐๐ – could use a card game like The Emotional Culture Deck โ Elephant Rider | Certificate of Practice
โช๏ธ ๐บ๐ฎ๐๐ฐ๐ต ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐, so to spot co-dependencies
๐ก draw ๐ฎ ๐๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ of the positives, so you can score yourself every day/week/or month
With emotions driven by our thinking, this approach covers the closest route between the two: by reminding myself how I want to feel, Iโll be just one step away from adjusting my thoughts.
๐ฅCan you do it too? Of course!
๐ฅDo you want to do it more efficiently? Connect with me and letโs have a coaching conversation ๐ book here
Grazie,
Grazia