New Year, New Yearn!

Setting Goals is often done at New Year: achieving goals can be done differently by crafting an emotional solution

New Year, New Yearn!


Achieving your Goals by Emotional Solution

New Year ๐’๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ for our goals are the new black! ๐‘๐„๐ฌ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ฌ๐จ ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ!

To me, starting 2022 was a matter of not REpeating the same disc of the 12 months just gone. My external realities have changed too, alongside with my internal ones ๐Ÿ†• 
If I changed, and my goals changed, ๐™ฌ๐™๐™ฎ ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ก๐™™ ๐™„ ๐™œ๐™ค ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™–๐™ข๐™š ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ?!

The new year is not necessarily just festive: it can bring negative feelings too, e.g. anxiety. 

Many of us experience this every 1st of January: I can’t help but wonder if we have successfully conditioned our mind to believe the first few days of January equal the excruciating pains of summing up our wins and losses…? From a mindset perspective, it could well be.

All in all, it is a cycle ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ญ๐˜บ coming to an end. The mere thought of it can add to the sense of drawing balance sheets. Or writing down some goals. Or toasting to resolutions while still in vacation mode.

 

In the spirit of challenging my mindset, I set End of Year apart and considered time as a continuum. The break between one year and the next is an arbitrary one (humankind has been creating and using methods for keeping track of days and larger divisions of time for centuries); so do not fall into the trap of seeing each January as the dawn of your new history: you make resolutions, and you regret your irresolution, and so goes the vicious cycle. Antonio Gramsci, late Italian politician, had put this sentiment in a much more direct way more than a century ago:

I want every morning to be a new yearโ€™s for me. Every day I want to reckon with myself, and every day I want to renew myself. No day set aside for rest. I choose my pauses myself, when I feel drunk with the intensity of life and I want to plunge into animality to draw from it new vigour.” [A. Gramsci]

With most of us being our own harshest critics, the balances are pretty often in red ๐Ÿ”ป. 
If operating in such a negative emotional disc, can you guess how long we are going to stick to our Goals (aka resolutions)?!
Correct! Not very long! 

So what do we need for Achieving Goals? An Emotional Solution!

Let me introduce you to a different approach: an Emotional Solution

It works like there
   ๐ŸŸก select ๐—›๐—ข๐—ช you ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ (๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜) ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—™๐—˜๐—˜๐—Ÿ – could use a card game like  The Emotional Culture Deck โ€“ Elephant Rider | Certificate of Practice
   โšช๏ธ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€, so to spot co-dependencies
   ๐ŸŸก draw ๐—ฎ ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ of the positives, so you can score yourself every day/week/or month

Emotional states can be identified with card games: this allows you to achieve your goals

With emotions driven by our thinking, this approach covers the closest route between the two: by reminding myself how I want to feel, Iโ€™ll be just one step away from adjusting my thoughts. 

๐ŸฅˆCan you do it too? Of course!
๐Ÿฅ‡Do you want to do it more efficiently? Connect with me and letโ€™s have a coaching conversation ๐Ÿ‘‰ book here

Grazie,

Grazia

 

 

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