Resign as your Chief Hope Officer
Replace Toxic Positivity with Realistic Optimism
Just came back from a break and dying for the next one? You (and I!) will be in a better mental shape if we ๐จ๐ฉ๐๐ฅ ๐๐ค๐ฌ๐ฃ ๐๐จ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐พ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ฅ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ง ๐๐ช
Yes, you are a CHO too.
Andโฆ๐
โฆmore now than ever before!
The last few weeks before End of Year, letโs be honest can see us ๐ ๐ฅ ๐ ๐ ๐ก ๐ ๐ . Having just two or three weeks to unplug, often does not do the trick.
Naively optimistic sentences like โ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ 3+ ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฌ๐ด ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฃ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฌ ๐โ๐ญ๐ญ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐จ๐ข๐ช๐ฏ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ฃ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆโ are not really cutting it. Because, despite the words, ๐๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ด๐๐ฒ. ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐. ๐ฆ๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐น๐ฒ. ๐๐ฎ๐.
Lately there’s a name to this naive optimism: Toxic Positivity.
So, what is going to get us going in a better mindset??
Stockdale was an American official who fell prisoner of war in Vietnam. He was held captive for 15years, before being freed again.
(question) โWho didnโt make it out?โ
(he answered) โOh, thatโs easy,โ he said. โThe optimists. Oh, they were the ones who said, โWeโre going to be out by Christmas.โ And Christmas would come, and Christmas would go. Then theyโd say, โWeโre going to be out by Easter.โ And Easter would come, and Easter would go. And then Thanksgiving, and then it would be Christmas again. And they died of a broken heart.โ
Is it a matter of surrendering? Nope.
Is it a matter of changing words? Nope.
It is a matter of working on the choices you have NOW!
In summary:
๐ก ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ด๐ป๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ต๐ผ๐ฝ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ you dealing with reality [hoping a break will dissolve your fatigue on a lasting basis isโฆjust a hope!]
โช๏ธ Embrace the reality and ๐๐ฟ๐๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ถ๐น๐น ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ off at the end [it has been a very intense couple of years but you have got the tools to overcome this challenge]
๐ก Meanwhile, ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐ณ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ป๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฐ๐๐ฟ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐๐ [you still have a few deadlines and projects to face]
โช๏ธ Break down the problems and ๐ณ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐น๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ [How can you work more efficiently? What activities can you do to release the stress?]
๐ฅCan you do fire your CHO by yourself? Of course!
๐ฅDo you want to do it in a more sustainable way? Have a coaching conversation ๐ book it here
Ready to replace Toxic Positivity with Realistic Optimism ?
Grazie,
Grazia